PARENTS & GUARDIANS
Parents/Guardians
"My hope is that in fifty years we'll have a generation that has grown up their whole lives hearing about consent and boundaries."
- Tarana Burke, Activist and Founder of the #MeToo Movement
“Don’t teach your son that girls are meant to be protected. Teach him that he has to create a world where girls don’t have to be afraid of anyone.”
-Rituparna Ghosh, Indian film director, actor, writer and lyricist.
Parents and guardians and the environment they create in their home can have significant influence over whether or not their child will: 1) perpetrate sexual violence; 2) feel safe telling if they are ever sexually harmed; or 3) ask them questions about sex and sexuality. The Centers for Disease Control & Prevention list risk factors for perpetrating sexual violence including: a family environment characterized by physical violence and conflict, a childhood history of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, an emotionally unsupportive family environment, and poor parent-child relationships, particularly with fathers. Similarly, kids are more likely to talk to someone about sexual violence, sex, and sexuality with someone they trust, and with whom they have healthy and safe communication. To learn more about ways in which you can be an ally for your child and in your community, please see the resources below.
MEN AS ALLIES
When we talk about sexual violence, it is girls and women who most often come to mind. When we think about prevention, we often think “don’t walk alone, carry pepper spray, take self defense class,” etc. - continuing to focus on what women and girls should do. However 91-99% of sex offenders are men. To end sexual violence, boys and men MUST take the lead in redefining masculinity, uplifting gender equity, and holding other boys and men accountable for sexist jokes and sexually, physically, and emotionally abusive behaviors towards their dating and marital partners. In a world in which toxic masculinity is praised and encouraged, being a male ally to end sexual violence can be challenging. Please see the resources below to help you in your journey. We need you, because as Tony Porter states “If women could end violence against women and girls by themselves, they would have done it already.”
Men as Allies
"Preventing sexual violence starts with what we teach our boys."
-Unknown
COACHES
Coaches
“Coaches consistently rank as the #1 positive influence in today’s youth.”
-Futures Without Violence
"My coach said I run like a girl, and I said if he ran a little faster he could, too"
-Mia Hamm, US retired professional soccer player, two-time Olympic gold medalist, and two-time FIFA Women's World Cup champion
Sports are a significant part of US culture, and research has proven that coaches and peer athletes play an influential role in kids' lives — one that can not only transform their attitudes and behaviors toward sexual violence but actually help to decrease and prevent dating abuse. Adolescents tend to spend a lot of time with their coaches and hold them in high regard, giving coaches a rare opportunity to model positive behavior. Please see the resources below to help you use your influence to create safer communities where men and boys learn that being strong means speaking out against comments and behaviors that lead to sexual and dating abuse.
SCHOOL TEACHERS
Teachers play a vital role in their students' academic and emotional and social development. For some kids, teachers are their closest allies and safest adults. This type of influence provides a tremendous opportunity for building student self-esteem and to model with them, healthy communication, boundaries, and respect. In other words, school teacher’s can play a vital role in sexual violence prevention. Please see below for resources on ways to engage your students in sexual violence prevention activities.
“Sexual harassment and assault occur in all kinds of schools, regardless of location. Remember that students have come to endure sexual harassment as a normal part of their school experience, even though it interferes with their learning and takes an emotional toll. Most parents aren’t aware of the risks that all children face.” - Ending K-12 Sexual Harassment: A Toolkit for Parents and Allies/Stop Sexual Assault in Schools
School Teachers
“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”
-Frederick Douglass, American social reformer, abolitionist, orator, writer, and statesman
COMMUNITY EDUCATORS & LEADERS
Community Educators & Leaders
"Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them."
-Lady Bird Johnson. American socialite and the First Lady of the United States as the wife of the 36th President of the United States, Lyndon B. Johnson
“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”
- Dr. Seuss, American Children’s Author
After school staff, youth group leaders, camp counselors, LGBTQ Center staff, community educators, and the like, provide safe spaces and growth opportunities for youth. These community members often connect with youth in a more personal and relaxed way than teachers and parents/guardians; almost like a peer rather than authority figure. Such relationships can create opportunities for teens to be more open and vulnerable to both learning and sharing. As such, these community leaders have a key role in engaging kids in discussions and activities that can lead to decreased sexual and dating violence. Please see resources below.
Resources for Adults Working with Teens to Prevent Sexual Violence
Author/Organization: Centers for Disease Control & Prevention
Resource Type: Website
Age: College, Elementary School, Middle School, High School
Topics: community educators, consent, prevention, school teachers, sexual violence/rape
Author/Organization: The Atlantic
Resource Type: PDF
Age: College, Elementary School, Middle School, High School
Topics: community educators, consent, language, men as allies, parents/guardians, school teachers, sexual violence/rape
Author/Organization: Girls for Gender Equity
Resource Type: PDF
Age: Elementary School, Middle School, High School
Topics: BIPOC, community educators, gender equity, get involved, men as allies, parents/guardians, prevention, racial equity, school teachers, sexual harassment, sexual violence/rape
Author/Organization: Futures Without Violence
Resource Type: Website
Age: Middle School, High School
Topics: coaches, community educators, gender equity, get involved, men and boys, men as allies, parents/guardians, prevention, school teachers
Author/Organization: Futures Without Violence
Resource Type: PDF
Age: Middle School, High School
Topics: bystander, coaches, communication, community educators, consent, gender equity, get involved, men and boys, men as allies, parents/guardians, prevention, safe dating, school teachers, speaking up & speaking out
Author/Organization: National Women's Law Center
Resource Type: PDF
Age: Elementary School, Middle School, High School
Topics: BIPOC, LGBTQI+, community educators, consent, counselors, dress code, evaluation, gender equity, get involved, men as allies, parents/guardians, prevention, racial equity, school teachers, sexual harassment, sexual health, sexual violence/rape, trauma-informed
Author/Organization: National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Resource Type: Infographic
Age: Middle School, High School
Topics: BIPOC, Community educators & leaders, LGBTQ+, PWD, male survivors, statistics
Author/Organization: National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Resource Type: Infographic
Age: Middle School, High School
Topics: Community educators & leaders, Cyber bullying, LGBTQ+, social media, statistics
Author/Organization: National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Resource Type: Infographic
Age: Middle School, High School
Topics: parents/guardians, sexual violence/rape
Resource Type: Video
Age: Middle School, High School
Topics: BIPOC, LGBTQ+, bystander, coaches, community educators, faith, male survivors, men & boys, parents/guardians, prevention, students, teachers
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